The Truth About Women Migrants

This post was written by Phil Lane, director of Oasis Belgium.

I first encountered Esther in a flat to the north of Brussels. She and her four children were huddled into a space that was meant for one person. Her distress was palpable and her children were nervous and unhappy. Only the baby seemed to be unaware of what was happening, smiling broadly from his make-shift cot. Esther had come from Thailand in search of a new life, had married a Belgian man with high hopes of finding work and being able to support her family and send money home too. She had two daughters from a previous marriage and then had two with her new husband, but then everything seemed to go wrong. The man’s family hated her and resented this foreigner in their midst. They tried to take the younger children from her, and then the husband became abusive and violent. She started to work in a Thai massage parlour to get money, but the pain and abuse there made her run from both the exploitation and her violent partner.

When we hear stories of women like Esther, it’s perhaps easy to draw the conclusion that female migration is a bad idea, full of risk and misery. In fact, some countries have gone as far as limiting the right of migration for women and requiring them to get the permission of a male in their family before they can travel. Nothing could be further from the truth, though. When women migrate, there are benefits to everyone. In fact, recent studies have shown that if women migrate from countries where there is severe gender inequality to countries where there are more rights and opportunities, it not only benefits the women and the country where they have chosen to live, but it also helps with the journey towards equality in their home country. Studies even show that female migration can have the effect of increasing the number of women sitting in their country’s parliaments! Women who migrate send a greater proportion of their income home (although they are paid less than male migrants), and the exposure to more rights, more opportunities and a louder voice in society spreads into their home cultures as they aspire for the same rights for their daughters. The host countries benefit from hard working and engaged women with a vision for their lives, and their home country sees the effect of empowered women within their culture. If we want to encourage women’s rights in all countries around the world, then part of that is to welcome and encourage women who have been brave enough to come and live here.

Esther is now settled in Belgium, works hard and lives a peaceful life. Although she has been through a lot, she is making real progress. We need to welcome people like Esther and make sure that they don’t have to go through the same nightmare in order to fulfill the potential they have, a potential that benefits everyone.

You can read more about the benefits to everyone when women migrate and the impact on gender equality in their home countries here.

Please do support our work, as we help to transform the lives of people like Esther. You can give here.

The Hidden Side of Brussels

This post was written by Phil Lane, director of Oasis Belgium

When we think of Brussels, what picture comes to mind? Perhaps we think of the European Union institutions, luxurious offices and wide meeting chambers. Perhaps we think of chocolate shops and bars that sell hundreds of varieties of beer. We might even think of the Atomium, that strange, futuristic structure that dominates part of the Brussels skyline (if you haven’t seen it, google it, it’s quite amazing.). We might think of art deco-houses and terrible traffic, and we will probably all think of a modern, wealthy capital city, not too large, but big enough to be a tourist destination and a desirable place to live.

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Yet, like any major European capital, Brussels has many different sides. There are the huge mansions of the embassies, and the sprawling suburban streets. There is also a hidden network of illegal, unsafe and depressing apartments, where the undocumented migrants live. Brussels might be a major European capital, but ten percent of its population lives without the legal right to work or stay. More than 100,000 people struggle each day to survive and stay off the streets. There are thousands of apartments that nobody would want to live in unless they really had to.

One family that Oasis works with had been evicted from a dirty, violent squat and for a while lived in decent social housing, but then, when they failed to pay the rent, they and their two children were evicted. They managed to find a place to squat in an empty apartment in the same block of flats, but were in constant fear that the police would knock on the door. On the occasions that the police did arrive, everyone froze and made no noise, hoping that the officers would go away, which they eventually did. Finally, they found an illegal flat that they could afford. It was a converted cellar, with so little air circulating that they couldn’t have a front door, and had to be content with bars keeping the world out. Next to the kitchen was the gas supply for the whole block of apartments. They worked hard and made a home out of it, and their children thrived in the local school.

It’s a testimony to the power and resilience of a loving family, but imagine this story told thousands of times over in one relatively small city. Think of the danger from fire, the health risks, the misery and depression that hangs over people struggling to live in these conditions. If this is what’s happening in Brussels, what about your city? What can be done to make sure that all people can be safe and thrive? Surely, whatever we feel about immigration at the highest levels, the well being of children living in our cities transcends all politics.

Every city has its public face, its prosperity and pride, and that’s good, but there is also always a hidden city, where the poor, the unrecognised and the marginalised struggle. We have to see both, and find solutions, so that nobody is left in misery.

We're starting an initiative to make the hidden parts of Brussels visible.

We're hosting a tour with the theme of Migration and Trafficking that will take tourists places they wouldn't usually go, places that prove that Brussels is a truly international city that bears the scars of the poverty and discrimination experienced by countless migrants. Making a difference in Brussels means more than bringing vulnerable people into community, it involves bringing long-time residents, visitors, and those who have only heard or read about the migration crisis in the news to see and experience the lived experiences of so many people. 

Learn more about our tour here. You can help us out by joining our tour, sharing with friends who are visiting, or simply sharing on your Facebook page. 

What We Can Learn From Racism in Football

This blog post was written by Phil Lane, director of Oasis Belgium.

This week the headlines have been full of Mesut Ozil quitting the German team because of the racism he’s suffered after their early exit from the world cup. When he was playing well, he was seen as German, when things fell apart he was “that Turkish player”. Despite giving his all year after year for his national team, when it came down to it, because of where his family was from, he wasn’t accepted. The same thing was echoed in an extraordinary piece written by the Belgian striker Romelu Lukaku before the world cup started. He tells of growing up in Antwerp, Liege and Brussels in poverty so bad that they couldn’t afford food for the week. Rats ran loose in his parents’ apartment and he had holes in his shoes. It was then that he vowed that by the time he was sixteen, he would be playing professionally for Anderlecht. Despite the racism of watching parents in various youth teams, he made his dream come true, but even now, like Ozil, if things are going badly, the press don’t talk about him as Belgian, but rather “The Belgian player of Congolese descent.” We are happy when immigrants are doing well for us, but when we lose, the reality surfaces again.

It shouldn’t be a surprise that this is what we are seeing in football, because it’s only a reflection of attitudes in wider society. Although we’ve come a long way since the slavery and colonialism of previous centuries, those events have left deep marks on European and American society, and there is still an underlying racism which effects many millions of people. As a privileged, white man, its would be easy to ignore the reality and tell everyone that we are “all equal now.”. The problem is that I see the opposite every day. At Oasis we work to help Thai women who have been trafficked or are experiencing violence from their boyfriend or husband. In one case recently, a man had gone as a sex tourist to Thailand and had deceived a woman into marrying him, when all he really wanted was sex, someone to clean his house and to cook Thai food just like he ate at the restaurants in Pattaya. When it became apparent that the woman wasn’t a good cook, he started to attack her, pulling chunks of hair out of her head. This is a mixture of extreme misogyny and racism. Western men often see Asian women as objects for exotic sex and service. There is a picture of a type of slavery in their minds that excites them and ruins the lives of thousands of women.

We also work with women from North Africa. Like Lukaku, they live in poverty, struggling to find the money for their next meal, mice running through the apartment and being rejected at every turn. One woman who we have been helping for years, recently parked her pushchair outside a play area for children, and while they were in there, someone smeared dog excrement on the handle. When you are living under the constant shadow of poverty, how do you deal with racist attacks as well?

Sometimes we help Roma families, and of all people living in Belgium, these people perhaps suffer the most racism. Even children on the streets will be vilified, and on one occasion when we were taking a group of Roma children to a playground, locals set the dogs on them.

These are not isolated incidents, they are part of every day life for thousands of people.

So, when we see the racism that is aimed at football players, we can’t simply say that football has a problem, we all have a problem. You can’t say that it’s a problem of immigration either. I’m an immigrant and I’ve very rarely experienced problems or prejudice. I’m white and so people don’t notice me, or object to me. This is a problem of racism. Whether people living in poverty in Belgium grow up to be successful footballers, or continue to struggle, they deserve respect and dignity as our fellow human beings.

Please help us continue our work with migrants in Belgium as we help them break down the barriers of poverty and discrimination. You can donate to our work here.

Human Trafficking is More Than a Number

This blog post was written by Phil Lane, director of Oasis Belgium

In the UK newspaper The Guardian today, there’s an article about the shocking new statistics on modern slavery. The Global Slavery Index reports that there are now no fewer than 40.3 million people living in slavery around the world and even in a developed country like the US, there are at least 400,000 people living in conditions of slavery. I’ve worked against human trafficking for many years. It’s a complex and difficult subject, ranging from women held in in servitude as they work as maids in ordinary homes, to children sold into Asian brothels, to men picking fruit on farms in Italy, to children forced by their own families to beg on the streets. It involves abuse, the manipulation of relationships by the very people who should offer the most protection, sometimes international gangs of criminals transferring people across borders, and at other times local criminals picking up on the vulnerability of migrants or local residents in their own communities. It’s complicated and it’s very difficult to measure. It’s like asking the related question, how many women have suffered domestic violence in your country? We can only go on the numbers of women who have spoken up and testified. Violence against women is difficult to collect data on, because there is a level of male violence in every society which people are blind to, because it’s still a part of the accepted cultural scenery. Counting the number of people who have been trafficked is even more difficult, because of the wide range of experiences that trafficking applies to, and because of the fact that not only do survivors often not want to talk about it, often they don’t even recognise that they’ve been trafficked. For them, it’s often just a continuation of the violence, abuse and manipulation that have long been part of life. It can take a long, patient work of explaining their rights to them, before they are able to see what’s actually happened.

So, collecting statistics about how many people have been trafficked or are being held in conditions of slavery is important, but it’s also a mountainous task. After working against human trafficking for nearly twenty years, I know that most of the statistics are still educated guesses, and rely on very undefined data. Although the work being done to document those exploited and trying to map the problem is vital, it’s still in its infancy and we can’t rely on the reports produced.

Yet still, whenever I speak about human trafficking, people always want to know the numbers. I once spoke at an event in South Africa, and when they asked me for statistics, I told them that the numbers were unreliable. Figures are stated on the internet, taken up, shared and eventually end up on official reports, circulating for years with an increasing sense of certainty. I sat down at the end of my talk and a member of the organising committee stood up, she said she was very unhappy with me and proceeded to quote all the numbers I had questioned as if they were absolute certainties! People seem to need numbers, the larger the better. That seemed to be the only thing they were interested in.

In the same meeting, a survivor of human trafficking, a Zimbabwean immigrant, bravely told her story, yet it didn’t seem to make an impact at all. She told of her dangerous journey across the border, and the rape she suffered on the way to Johannesburg. Finally, she told about her life in the brothels of the city. It was a brave thing to do, and I’m not sure how good it was for her own well-being, but there wasn’t much interest. People who wanted to be shocked and horrified by huge global figures on human trafficking, weren’t much moved by a story of someone in their own community. In our modern world, it’s often easier to be moved by a global tragedy, than to look up from our smart phones and see the abuse in our own community. They all had opinions about Zimbabwean immigrants, perhaps they saw them in a negative light and thought she should have stayed at home anyway. The media and NGO communication about human trafficking is so often about evil traffickers who exploit totally innocent victims. When we look closer, we realise that people who have been trafficked are ordinary, complicated, compromised individuals most of the time and when we really look at human trafficking, we have to take seriously the issues of violence against women, poverty, immigration and the disempowerment of huge sections of our societies. This isn’t comfortable and is far less exciting than the plot lines of films like “Taken”. So, we like to look at the big picture, we make up the best numbers we can and we hope governments will act. We’ve managed to perfect the art of making people aware of the problem whilst at the same time giving them every tool to deflect the reality that’s going on around them.

So, what should we do? Certainly, the task of trying to collect the data on how big this problem is and which countries specifically are not doing enough to combat human trafficking has to go on. However, our role is to do much more than just throw our hands up in the air at the scale and the horror of it all, our job is to see what is happening locally and to help to deal with the roots of this complex and widespread evil. When I speak in schools, I’m always asked, “what can we do to fight human trafficking?” and I always given an answer that they don’t expect and probably don’t want. They probably expect to be told to sign a petition, send a postcard or meet their local political representative. All these things are important, but underlying it all are deeper issues. I usually say that there are three things everyone can do. Firstly, make sure that everyone is included, supported and has friends. Don’t let anyone, no matter how unpopular they are, be pushed out onto the margins. Being cut off from social support is a way to become vulnerable to trafficking. Secondly, specifically welcome and include immigrants in your country. Whatever you think about the big issue of immigration, people who are there in your neighbourhood or your city should not be left lonely, isolated and without hope; surely, we can all agree on that! I guarantee you that once you actually get to know people who have come as refugees or economic migrants from some of the poorer countries in the world, you will change your opinion on the big issue of immigration, but that’s another matter. Finally, be an advocate for women’s rights. Don’t stand for women being treated as second class, or treated as objects. Don’t just quietly disagree with violence against women, or sexism in our society, be an active and vocal advocate for women’s rights. If you do these three things, then you will be reducing the vulnerability to trafficking in your city. It isn’t the complete answer to the problem, there are many specific actions and services that need to be developed, but you will begin to cut off some of its roots. To cut another root we should refuse to accept cheap goods and a better lifestyle at the expense of workers being exploited to keep the costs down. These things are difficult though. It requires setting aside our preconceptions and opening our eyes to the nuance, the difficulty, the complexity of human trafficking and what is coming to be called “modern slavery”.

I remember a Thai woman we met once in a seedy brothel to the north of Brussels. The place was shuttered and barred, with security cameras on the door. She had been raped and sold in Thailand, and had finally been brought to Belgium by a man who promised her a better life. She knew that she would probably be in the sex trade, as that was all she had known for years. Yet, when she got here, she was exploited in a brothel, given drugs and was often violently attacked. At one point she was sold between brothels for €30. On the day we met her, she was recovering from being deliberately burned by a client. We slowly got to know her, befriended her and finally helped her out of exploitation and into a better life. It took many months, but we were able to help her.

Imagine if both in Thailand and in Belgium, there was no tolerance of violence against women, and imagine she had known her rights from the start and had known where to report her suffering without shame, in the knowledge that the police wouldn’t doubt her and would have taken action. Imagine if, when she arrived in Belgium, instead of nobody speaking to her, she had been befriended and welcomed. Imagine if the norm was to make sure nobody was left alone to fend for themselves and that if someone was being kept hidden in a house, the authorities would always be informed. If we had stood against violence against women, and had made sure our communities welcomed immigrants, wouldn’t her vulnerability have been reduced and the length of time it took for her to get free cut to a fraction? Of course it would. These are things that would make the traffickers’ job much more difficult. Numbers are very important, particularly if they are well researched (which they rarely are in anti-human trafficking work), but they are nothing compared to working together to ensure that everyone is treated as a human being.

More information: http://www.antitraffickingreview.org/index.php/atrjournal/article/view/228/216

If you'd like to give towards the vital work Oasis does helping women who have experienced or are vulnerable to trafficking and gender-based violence, please do so here

Brave

This post was written by Phil Lane, director of Oasis Belgium

Recently, I had the privilege of reading the school reports of two small boys to them and their father. They had all been through a great deal; poverty, discrimination, living in a squat, violent expulsion by the police and the disintegration of all they ever new when their Mum left them in the middle of all that chaos. Even now, they live in very precarious circumstances and are never far from hunger and the streets. What I want to underline here though, is not the hardship of their lives, but their bravery. Two boys, aged seven and nine years old, north africans living in Belgium, trying to come to grips with French, and all the pressures that come with school these days. The older boy struggles with school and is often angry, as he copes with his trauma. Yet still, there he is, doing well in maths even if his hand-writing needs work. Reading through a school report, I have always believed that you should emphasise the positive, the successes and victories, before encouraging the child to work on the subjects that have seen struggle and failure. As I read the report out, you could see his face start to light up, as I picked out positive after positive. His younger brother had a glowing report and was obviously a joy to be with in class. He smiled a shy smile, it was obviously something that the teachers had told him before. What bravery from these immigrant boys, doing their best despite the trauma and poverty of their lives! What bravery from the teachers who with few resources are transforming the hopes of immigrant children into realities. Oasis has supported these children for years, and it was good to see that they were making progress.

It reminded my of another young immigrant child who we helped while we were working for Oasis in India. He was eight years old, skinny and strong willed. His Mum and Dad had brought him and his younger sister to Mumbai from Orissa in the hope of working and living on construction sites. So, they lived in a tent or a lean-to shack in the shells of luxury apartments they could never afford to live in. They were Indian, but this far from their home state and language, they were in effect immigrants to the city. Soon after they arrived, the boy found our drop-in centre and wandered in. From the beginning it was obvious how intelligent he was. He couldn’t get enough of our teaching, learning to hold a pen, to form his letters, and finally to read and write. Somehow this brave young boy could sense that this was the door out of the endless poverty of his life. Learning was exhilarating, like exploring a new universe. Then came the inevitable; the father announced that their building work was over and they were moving to another part of the city. The boy was devastated and shouted at his parents that he would run away from home and sleep outside the drop-in centre because he had to keep learning. Imagine the determination and courage of this extraordinary eight-year-old. A new city, a new language and yet he was determined to learn. I will never forget my colleague squatting in the dirt and asking the boy’s Dad what his own father had done “he worked like this” was the answer. And his grandfather? “the same”. “So, how will your son get a better life, if not through education?” There was silence as the truth dawned. At last he could glimpse what his son had already seen. So, we agreed to fetch him and bring him each day to the centre and eventually we were able to get him a place at a boarding school. Change was possible because of his bravery.

The answer to immigration is not increasing exclusion and isolation, but providing opportunity and education. Next time you see an immigrant child, think just how brave they are, and just how far they’ve come for the opportunities that we take for granted.

 

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The Truth About "Mail Order Brides"

Written by Abriel Schieffelers

At Oasis, we’re passionate not only about helping people, but also about changing the stereotypes and misconceptions that people have about certain groups of people. We seek to raise awareness in a way that does justice to the complexity of individual stories. 

As you know about our previous posts about human trafficking, there’s a danger in simplifying narratives and breaking people down into “good guys” and “bad guys” The same is true for the phenomenon of “mail order brides,” or what is more accurately called “trans-national marriage migration.” 

We’ve all heard stories, seen documentaries, or witnessed older, white men with young Asian or Eastern European men. Back in the day, these men would often literally “order” these women by mail or online. Today, it’s a little more complex. Many of these couples do meet online, often through dating websites instead of mail-order bride agencies. Some couples meet while the man is visiting Thailand or Russia (or whatever other country). 

And of course, this is not simply a phenomenon of American/European men and Asian/Eastern European women. Recently, there’s been a rise in older European and American women seeking out younger African or South American men. You can read more about that here.

The majority of women the Welkom Project works with are Thai women who have migrated to Belgium for marriage. Some of them come from well-educated backgrounds, while some of them only have a primary school education. Some of them worked in the sex industry in Thailand, others worked at office jobs. Some of them have children back home in Thailand, others don’t. For all of these women, they saw Belgium as a fresh start in their lives. 

All of the women we work with have made difficult decisions at this point in their lives. Some have prioritized sending money home to their families over staying in Thailand with their children. Others have simply sacrificed the comfort of home for the strangeness of a new life. These women also face different realities once moving to Belgium — some of them settle in to a happy marriage and are able to navigate life in a new culture and language. Others experience violence in their marriages and find themselves isolated in a strange country. As Oasis, we far too often see men who simply want to marry a Thai woman she will cook and clean for him, or even work for him while he stays at home. If she doesn’t meet these requirements, he will turn to abuse and violence to get his way. In the worst cases, we have seen Belgian men exploit their wives by forcing them to work in erotic massage parlors and take all their earnings. 

So why would these women move to Belgium in the first place? And why would they stay in the marriage once it turns abusive? There are so many factors at play here — and it’s important to understand the interplay of these factors to understand why it is so appealing for women to migrate for marriage, and so difficult for them to leave when it gets bad. 

One huge factor is economic - and often the unequal power relations between the women and men mirror those of global inequalities. Thai women believe that they will be economically stable once they marry a foreigner, and that they’ll be able to support their children and family by sending money back. 

Another factor is the idealistic view of life in Europe or America Thai women often have. They believe that they’ll be able to travel, have fancy handbags and clothes, and experience a luxurious and happy life once they migrate. In reality, however, many of the men who marry Thai women are living off disability checks or barely making ends meet, but will lie to their girlfriends to convince them to move to Europe with them. 

Finally, Thai women migrate for love. Often, these marriages have a transactional element, but there is some element of love and mutual respect in the relationship. At Oasis, we have heard many women tell us that truly love their husbands and that they believed their partner loved them and would never hurt them before they moved to Europe. 

After years of working with Thai marriage migrants, we at Oasis believe that the primary reason these women don’t leave abusive relationships is their precarious immigration status. There are, of course, cultural taboos regarding divorce, but the strongest motivator is knowing they will be kicked out of the country if they have been married to their Belgian partner for less than five years. Many women hope to “stick it out” for the five years and then divorce their partner and find a better life. In addition to the usual elements that keep women in abusive relationships, immigration status is a huge factor in why women are slow to leave dangerous marriages. 

Trans-national marriage migration is a complex issue due to the ever-present global and gender inequalities that make it easy for women to become victims of violence and exploitation. If you'd like to learn more about trans-national marriage migration, pick up the book "Global Woman" by Barbara Ehrenreich and Arlie Hochschild or the documentary "Love on Delivery" by Sine Plambech and Janus Metz. 

There's still so much more to learn about trans-national marriage migration, the experiences of women who leave behind their families for a new life in Europe, and the challenges they face in their new relationships. At Oasis, we understand that each woman’s situation is different, so we tailor our services to their unique needs. We're committed to hearing their stories, empowering them to flourish in their new home, and raising awareness about this issue, and we'll continue to share with you what we're learning. 

Basilique et Menthe: on vous présente notre nouvelle entreprise sociale

Depuis quelques mois nous planifions notre nouvelle entreprise sociale.  Nous cherchons constamment de nouvelles manières d’aider nos bénéficiaires à devenir autonome, soit par le travail, soit grâce à des formations. Beaucoup parmi elles aiment déjà cuisiner et partager leur culture avec d’autres- donc ceci nous semblait être le projet parfait pour elles.  Nous l’avons appelé « Basilique et Menthe”, faisant allusion à  l’unique mélange de femmes Thaïlandaises et Nord Africaines avec qui nous travaillons, qui ont été victimes de violence et d’exploitation.  La basilique est l’ingrédient clef dans la cuisine Thai, tout comme la menthe l’est dans la cuisine Nord Africaine.

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Nous avons créé « Basilique et Menthe » avec certains buts en tête :

La Flexibilité

Dans le passé, nous avons créé un café et également un bar à café mobile. Nous avons acquit de l’expérience dans ce domaine. Mais nous nous rendons bien compte de l’énorme engagement que ça représente, lorsqu’on associe un bâtiment à une entreprise sociale. Nous voulions que cette initiative en particulier,  représente le plus faible risque possible, avec une flexibilité qui s’adapte aux besoins de nos bénéficiaires et notre public cible. (Le café et notre bar à café mobile continuent à fonctionner avec grand succès)

Stabilité Financier

Tous nos projets fonctionnent entièrement grâce aux dons généreux que nous recevons et à nos propres efforts pour récolter des fonds. Nous voulions que notre entreprise sociale puisse être profitable, non seulement pour que nos bénéficiaires puissent subvenir aux besoins de leurs familles, mais aussi pour que nous puissions continuer à faire notre travail, aidant les plus vulnérables en Belgique.

Plus que la nourriture

Notre but ne se limite pas à offrir une expérience culinaire excellente.  On souhaite y ajouter quelque chose au delà de ce qu’on pourrait trouver au restaurant du quartier. Nous voulons vous donnez un avant-gout de la culture de nos bénéficiaires, une expérience communautaire et une célébration de leur autonomie.

Quand vous visitez un de nos « pop-up restaurants » ou que vous utilisez notre service traiteur pour un événement , vous recevez non seulement un bon repas, et passez une bonne soirée,  mais vous participez également à une action beaucoup plus grande, qui change des vies! 

La Communauté

Tous ce que nous faisons à Oasis est basé sur l’idée de construire une communauté. C’est pour cela que notre équipe et nos bénévoles sont complètement « hands-on ». Nous faisons les courses, cuisinons, et nettoyons côte à côte avec nos bénéficiaires. Tous ce que nous faisons est basé sur l’effort d’équipe, donc personne n’est délaissé. 

Si vous souhaitez vous joindre à notre équipe d’événements, veuillez nous envoyer un email à l’adresse suivante : abriel.schieffelers@oasisbe.org

Nous venons d’organiser notre premier « pop-up restaurant » : The Elephant in the Room, ainsi que quelques soirées comme traiteur. Nous sommes bien sure, encore à nos premiers pas d’essai, découvrant ce qui fonctionne et ce qui ne fonctionne pas. 

C’est un chemin passionnant et nous  sommes optimistes pour ce que l’avenir nous réserve dans cette nouvelle initiative.  Vous pouvez « aimer » notre page Facebook pour se tenir au courant de nos événements. 

N’hésitez pas à nous contacter soit par email (abriel.schieffelers@oasisbe.org) soit sur notre page Facebook, si vous souhaitez organiser un événement avec notre service traiteur, ou accueillir un “pop-up restaurant” à votre travail ou chez vous.  

 

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Basil + Mint: Presenting Our New Social Enterprise

The past few months we’ve been busy planning for our new social enterprise. We’re always looking for new ways to help empower our beneficiaries through work or building skills. Many of them already love cooking and sharing their cultures with others - so this seemed to be the perfect fit! We called it Basil + Mint because of the unique blend of Thai and North African women we work with who have experienced violence or exploitation. Basil is a key ingredient in Thai cuisine, as is mint in North African cuisine.

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We dreamed up Basil + Mint with a few goals in mind:

1. Flexibility — in the past, we’ve started both a cafe and a mobile coffee bar. We have experience in this industry, but we also know how big a commitment it is to have a brick-and-mortar building attached to a social enterprise. We wanted this particular initiative to be as low-risk as possible and with the flexibility to adapt to the needs of our beneficiaries and target audiences. (The cafe and mobile coffee bar we started are still thriving! Check them out here and here.) 

 

2. Financial sustainability — all of our projects are run completely on the generous donations of others and our own fundraising efforts. We wanted our social enterprise to be profitable not only so our beneficiaries can provide for their families from it, but also so we can continue to do our work helping vulnerable people in Belgium.

 

3. More than food — our goal is not just to offer an excellent culinary experience, but something beyond what you can find in your neighborhood restaurant. We want to bring a taste of our beneficiaries’ cultures, a communal experience, and a celebration of empowerment. Whenever you visit one of our pop-up restaurants or hire us to cater an events, you get more than a meal, you get to be a part of something bigger than yourself. 

 

4. Community — everything we do at Oasis is centered around the idea of building community. That’s why our staff and volunteers are completely hands-on: we shop, cook, and clean alongside our beneficiaries. Everything we do is a team effort, so no one is left behind. If you want to become part of our event team, please e-mail abriel.schieffelers@oasisbe.org

 

We’ve just hosted our first pop-up restaurant, The Elephant in the Room, and have catered for a handful of events. We are definitely still in a “trial run” phase and are figuring out what works and what doesn’t. It’s an exciting journey and we’re optimistic about what the future holds for this new initiative! You can like our page on Facebook to keep up with our events.

Please feel free to contact us at abriel.schieffelers@oasisbe.org or on our Facebook page about event catering or hosting a pop-up restaurant at your business or home. 

 Thai dancing at "The Elephant in the Room" pop-up restaurant

Thai dancing at "The Elephant in the Room" pop-up restaurant

 Catering Algerian food for lunch at the American Women's Club of Brussels

Catering Algerian food for lunch at the American Women's Club of Brussels

Meditation, Cooking, and Empowering Women

This post was written by Evie Markham

The transition from the university lecture theatre to interning with Oasis Belgium was a interesting and rewarding process. It is not until now when I reflect upon my time at Oasis Belgium that I have realised how much I have learnt. I am also able to acknowledge how much more difficult and complex the issues that Oasis Belgium work with are, as well as how important the work is.

In my three months here, it never felt like going to ‘work’ because every day was so different. The work ranged from visiting massage parlours around Belgium, accompanying ladies to social services and court cases, to giving a talk at a school about human trafficking and gender-based violence. Working at Oasis Belgium isn’t a 9-5 job, you have to really want to do it and I think it takes a passionate and driven person to stay positive and motivated, which describes the team at Oasis Belgium.

We drive sometimes over an hour to massage parlours to deliver communicational materials, newsletters in Thai written by one of the volunteers, and recently Christmas bags full of sweets and chocolates that were also made by one of the volunteers. It really is a team effort. Sometimes they don’t answer the door, sometimes they’re busy but sometimes we can enter the parlour and chat to them. If they let us enter or not, we will leave the materials so they know that were are there for them, if they need us.

On my first day I met A who had come to Belgium for marriage, but was now in an abusive relationship and wanted to get away. She wanted to stay in Belgium but without papers and with a young daughter, she made the difficult decision to return to her home country. We accompanied her to meeting with the IOM (International Organisation for Migration) and in my time here she returned to her home country. We have stayed in contact with her and continue to support her journey despite being on the other side of the world. The dedication of the team is something that never failed to amaze me, always going above and beyond.

Being an ‘intern’ often evokes images of lots of making tea and photocopying paper but my internship at Oasis involved much more than this. I feel like I’ve had responsibility, that I am trusted and that my opinion is valid and worth listening to. I was encouraged from the start to use my initiative and I don’t think I had the confidence to use it in the working environment before. This is definitely a personal skill that has developed whilst interning with Oasis Belgium. The wellbeing of staff and volunteers is something that is also taken seriously which is so important when working in the situations that Oasis do. In my time here I attended a meditation class and group counselling session and I was always encouraged to talk about the experiences we had.

Thank you to everyone from the volunteers, full-time staff and everyone I met in my three months at Oasis Belgium. I will now return to university for the last two semesters of my degree with enthusiasm, motivation and a deeper understanding of the complexities of working with often marginalised and vulnerable populations.

A Year of Celebration, Grief, and Hope

This post was written by Abriel Schieffelers

As we begin the holiday season and look back on Oasis Belgium's 10th year, our team recently took time to process the past year and remember all the stories of transformation and hope we've encountered, but also the stories of loss and pain. As with everything else in life, it’s hard to see day-by-day the difference we’re making, but when we look back on months and years, it’s incredible to see how much growth we’ve witnessed. 

We grieve…

In September, the Welkom Project said goodbye to a woman we had worked with for a long time to help get out of a difficult situation. In the beginning of the year she was diagnosed with a terminal disease, and fought bravely until the end. We are grateful for the time we got to know her and we were touched by her gratitude towards our team in her final days.

We celebrate…

This year, we witnessed the growth of the Buurtbar project. It's now reaching more elderly people than ever before, partnering people with common interests together, and has been featured in local newspapers.

One moment of celebration for the Welkom Project this year involved a young mother returning home to South East Asia after she was caught in a violent relationship here in Belgium. After deliberating for a long time whether to try to stay here or go home, she made the decision to return home and has since found a job. We’re thankful that she was able to exit this abusive relationship, get the help she needed while still here in Belgium, and that her and her child are now safe and reunited with their family. 

We hope...

One woman the Welkom Project met this year returned to her abusive partner. While we know that the decision to stay or leave is always in the individuals hands, we are saddened by the statistics that tell us the abuse is unlikely to stop. However, we are hopeful that in the future she will be able to make the difficult decision to walk away from the relationship — for herself and for her young children. We have hope that she will find community, meaningful work, and safety in the near future. 

There are still so many women in Belgium in situations of exploitation. Many women from Asian countries move to Belgium hoping for a good relationship and a lucrative job but are met with disappointment, horrible work conditions, and abusive spouses. Our Welkom Project meets these women where they are — in house brothels, over a cup of coffee, at the social services, and in the courts — and makes sure that have everything they need to be able to envision a better future. 

There are many lonely elderly people in Belgium, living without loving touch, conversation, and human interaction in nursing and assisted living homes. The Buurtbar brings community into these lonely places, providing high quality tea and desserts as well as providing fun, conversation, and activities.

Many children in Belgium live in families that are struggling to make ends meet - especially families without papers who are unable to find stable income. The Brussels Project partners with a nearby school in an impoverished part of Brussels to provide Christmas presents for parents to give to their children.  

This Christmas, we’re asking you to partner with Oasis Belgium through our 9 Campaign. Simply giving 9€ a month can make the difference between loneliness and community, exploitation and safety, fear and hope. What are you willing to give up this year to stand with us?

Please stand with us by joining the 9 campaign. For 9€ a month, you’ll receive a thank-you note from our team. For 18€ a month, you’ll receive a hand-made gift from our partner organization KoffieKlap. For 27€ a month, you’ll receive one free ticket to our 11th Anniversary Gala in 2018 (date TBD).

Happy holidays from the Oasis Belgium team!

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